You cannot live a positive life with a negative mind.– Anonymous.
The potential of positive thoughts in our lives has always been underrated. Most of us take the help of external sources to boost the quality of our lives, achieve our goals or to simply save our sanity in the hubbub of daily life. But can we get all this help without stepping out of our homes or calling another person? Turns out we can. And how? By calling out to ourselves, and by initiating a deliberate, positive self-talk.
Recent research claims that a person has an average of 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts daily. And the tone of these thoughts, or our inner conversations, hold the power to dictate the fate of our lives.
However, leveraging the power of inner dialogues do not come easily to everyone. It is much easier to be pessimistic, about the rest of the world and ourselves. Pessimism is a prologue to inaction because we have already excused ourselves to failure. The positive thought, however, demands results-driven action and is a harder, more fruitful approach.
If you are a non-starter on building affirmative thoughts yet; or have stayed away from self-talk thinking that the idea is crazy, think again. Self-talk is something you will be happy to have tried. It is a tried and tested approach–with proven results– to change the course of an individual’s life, for the better.
Just as constant criticism can push your morale downhill, tireless cheering, albeit done ourselves, can help us do better in life.
Here are a few tips to help you get started:
- Practise listening to the internal dialogue
The best way to do this is to hear the talk within just as you would hear two people talking. Just keep listening without getting involved. It is very much similar to listening to a radio talk. Only be a witness to the talk.
- Observe the pattern of self-talk
When you are feeling low, ask yourself if your self-talk making you feel better about yourself, or worse? Stop for a moment and imagine what you would say to a friend who was facing a similar situation. Observe the way your thoughts move. Are they moving in the positive or in the negative direction? Ask yourself “Is there an evidence of the pattern of my thoughts”?
- Analyse the talk within when things don’t go well
Failures are bound to happen despite your best efforts. And when they do, you must not dive deeper into the pit of self-doubt. Do not dwell in self-doubt. Analyse the events from a new perspective and encourage yourself to focus on the next big milestone.
- Use self-talk as a confidence booster
When your day is going all wrong, a little self-talk can prompt you to see things with a new perspective. Even coaching yourself to say and believe “I am capable of good things!” can change things for the better.
- Leverage on self-talk
Become alert and aware of what’s going on in your mind. Gradually, you will notice that you stopped loading your mind with unnecessary thoughts and talk. Do not allow yourself to be carried away by unwanted chatter. Listen, observe, analyse and keep watching.
Learn the art of listening and watch the energy flow in the direction of thoughts. Attend a session on inner dialogues at our workshops. Write to us at firstname.lastname@example.org. Share your thoughts and comments below; we would love to hear from you!